Simple Ways To Deepen The Bond In Your Marriage
Posted: June 17, 2020
By: Cheri Locke, MA, LPC
Marriage is a beautiful thing and there is nothing more amazing than the love and bond you share with your partner. What happens though when life happens and you start to feel less connected with your spouse?
Connection in Marriage Should Be Natural...Right?
Let’s face it…we have all said it. I’m tired or I’m busy. The kids have this thing or that thing and then before we know it the day is over. We go to sleep, wake up and repeat. I see many couples that say “I feel like we are on autopilot.” So how do you go to work, take care of the home and kids, take care of yourself, oh and keep a strong connection in your relationship?
"A strong relationship requires choosing to be intentional in showing your partner that you love them everyday."
Simple Ways to Be More Intentional in Your Marriage
Schedule Together Time
This is one of the most important things that I have couples incorporate during their time in therapy. And, hopefully they continue! Spending even just 20 minutes a day focused on each other can help you feel more connected. Many people think that if you are together while accomplishing "tasks" then you are at least together. The reality is that while that is okay- it does not equate into keeping a strong bond. Keep it simple, but schedule the time so that it becomes a part of your life rather than a moment forgotten.Date More Often
Couples that are connected and feel that they have a strong bond feel more satisfied and happy. So how do you accomplish that when busy lives prevail? Go on a date. Many couples quit dating after marriage and after time begin to feel like their marriage is put on the back burner compared to other things in their life. The reality is couples should continue to date throughout their lifetime. Yes, how often and where you go will change, but only dating for special occasions will not keep the bond strong. Try to schedule a date once a week (with intention) and if that is difficult due to work or kids, then at least try for every other week.
Write Love Notes
Do you enjoy saying I love you to your partner? Well, I hope the answer is yes, but I often hear from couples that sometimes it just feels "routine" or "monotonous." Change it up a bit! You can easily send a love text, leave a little note on a coffee mug or mirror to say I love you. The little extra always feels special. As part of therapy, I have couples write "I love you because..." notes to remind them why they chose their partner and to inject positivity. A little love note is always a nice reminder to your partner that you care and they matter to you.
Have Fun
In a world where people lead extremely busy lives, let loose and have some fun with your partner. Many couples get caught up in the "business" of taking care of the home, the kids, the bills, the...where does the list end. While all of those things need to be attended to, it does not mean that is all there is to life. So what is fun to you? Start inviting your partner to share in the fun- it helps create more connected moments between the two of you. Plus laughter is good for the soul!
Begin Marriage Counseling in Katy, TX
If you are ready to strengthen the bond with your partner, the therapists at The Center at Cinco Ranch can help! We provide couples counseling services as well as cater to specific needs for men and women in relationships. To begin counseling in Katy, TX follow these three steps:- Contact our office to set up an appointment or to get more information about marriage therapy
- Meet with one of our compassionate therapists
- Find ways to create a more intentional marriage with counseling!